When you are growing in any area of your life, it's a natural part of the process to feel resistance. That's OK. But don't let it stop you from what you know will make your heart sing.
You can push past the resistance. It could look like pushing gently. Or if you're really ready to soar, it's possible to rewire your reactions so that you can jump right in to what's next. It's a process and your pace will vary.
If you find yourself digging in your heels about something, try to be honest with yourself about where that's coming from. I recently heard this quote: "The truth will set you free, but first it wil piss you off!"
Tap into your intuition (or some might call it that "gut feeling"). Pay attention to whether there is real or imagined danger. If you listen, you'll know which fears are the ones that are protecting you and which ones are irrational beliefs--or self doubt that someone else planted anyway. Cleaning that up can be as simple as saying "return to sender."
So when the resistance comes up, plug into your support system, gather your infinite courage, take a breath, and when you let that breath out, ask yourself what is the one action that you can take right now to get you moving in the direction of your dream? Listen for the answer. Then, take action! Small steps. You can do this!
Yeah, well, if you're feeling discouraged because you feel like your life isn't even close to the first arrow, and in fact if your life feels more like the second arrow, then that's great!!! It means you're on track. How cool is that?
The thing is, you have to keep going. Yes. One more step, then one more. Do you have clarity about what you want to accomplish? If not, then maybe your next step is getting honest with yourself about what will really make your heart sing. If your heart sings when you think of your dream, it's a good sign that you are on track!
Sometimes I encourage people to "fail well." In fact, there are times that I've invited people to do the crappiest job at something they possibly can! That is a place to start.
You can do this!
And you're not in it alone either; you are never alone.
Jack Canfield, co-creator of the Chicken Soup for the Soul Series (millions of books sold) teaches that the best way to make progress in your business or project is to use the “rule of five.” That is simply taking five small actions every day that will move you forward. Sounds easy enough, but this simple principle will have a huge impact.
So what’s stopping you? Don’t let fear or overwhelm block you from doing what you really want. You can get “unstuck” using the synergy of the dynamic, action oriented, and supportive group, Level Up Tzfat! Time to “power up” and take it to the next level.
Coming up with a dream, whether it's business or personal, is the easy part. Taking the right action in the right direction is what will get you to your goals and dreams. The first step, before anything else can happen, is that you have to show up for yourself with commitment. Sometimes fear or uncertainty get in the way. This is what I know. If you take the steps, even if they are the wrong steps and in the wrong direction, if you are showing up for yourself, you will get the clarity you need and want.
Only you know the truth about what you want for yourself, your family, or your community. Step one is to show up. Now, if you can, take a moment to get centered within yourself, be still, and ask yourself: What does showing up look like for me? You have your best answers inside. Listen, see, feel, imagine, envision.
When you take the first step by showing up with a commitment, the sea might even just part!
Who is Laya?
Laya is an author, speaker, and solopreneur. She has thousands of hours of study and experience in both applied and positive psychology. Learning that it's not enough to write a book, you actually have to market in order for the book to get into the hands of a reader to make a difference, she studied online marketing as well as writing copy and branding. She knows the power of a mastermind group and wanted to bring this to her home community. With her son in the IDF and her daughter married, she lives with her husband, dog, and hens with an occasional sighting of the turtle.